Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Early Breastfeeding Obstacles Part 2 - Comfort Level

Having many guests the first few weeks of your baby's life poses another possible problem - are you comfortable with breastfeeding in front of people? Chances are if you are a first time mom the answer to this question is a resounding "NO"!

Early on I know I would try to use blankets or covers, which when you are first learning how to latch is darn near impossible. Not to mention baby gets too warm and fussy, and the whole thing just turns to frustration.

It does take some time for most women to stop seeing their boobs as something to keep
hidden (aka sexual and private.) Now being on my second child I am much more comfortable just doing what I need to do in order to get my baby to her food source and much less time worried about arranging a blanket to shield the view of whoever is in the room. Do people see my nipple, yeah... probably. But ya know what... I don't really care. If they see it, it's because they are looking too darn closely. I'm exposed for probably 5 seconds if even that, and if baby is rooting around a person should know that feeding is happening soon if they know anything about me.

Another thing to think about is getting used to acting and feeling that nursing is a completely normal and natural thing to do (because IT IS). If you don't make a big production of it, people in the same room with you might not even realize you are nursing. When your baby starts showing signs of being hungry, just simply feed him/her. No need to announce it to the room and let everyone know what you are about to do. If they realize what you are doing and they are uncomfortable, they can leave.

So in summary - Either find your kahunas and just whip 'em out, spend a lot of time in back bedrooms, or simply tell people that you need some privacy. Solicit the support of your partner to wrangle people away when baby starts to fuss. Don't deny your baby boobs just because you have company over.

Baby's needs come first over formality and politeness in my opinion!


  1. Sorry about so many posts today folks. I pulled a dummy by not changing the year to 2011 when I went to schedule this to automatically post tomorrow! DER!!!

  2. Good post Mother Hen :) Awesome advice :)

  3. Thanks! More to come in parts 3-10! :)

  4. Actually, I credit my early NIP success partially to my brother-in-law spending a week with us when my little guy was brand new. I could barely walk and my LO was eating CONSTANTLY. In our tiny apartment there was no way to avoid having an audience! I got lots of practice being discreet, and gained a lot of confidence!
    I am fortunate that my husband is one of 9 and my mother-in-law breastfed all of them, though, so none of his family is weird about seeing someone feed their baby, and know when not to look!

  5. love this post! when i had my son in june of 2008 we had a ton of visitors--my husband is in the army and all the wives wanted to come to welcome our baby. which was fine with me. i was totally ok nursing in front of anyone, anytime, anywhere, even though he was my first. my thinking was, the needs of this baby come before my modesty or guests' discomfort, and if they are uncomfortable, they will look away or leave the room. my stepson, 15 at the time, was horrified! "You're going to do...THAT...while the battalion commander and his wife are here?!?!" well, yes, the baby is hungry NOW, not when they leave. not much choice. anyway, i try to empower new moms as much as i can to continue to nurse or at least pump this liquid gold for their precious itty bitties!! we shouldn't be ashamed of providing for our babies in the way nature attended!